Hi! My name is Brandy and I’m a licensed professional counselor and certified functional nutritionist in Thornton, CO. I specialize in helping people get to the root cause of their people pleasing and perfectionism. I received my MA degree from Naropa University in Boulder, CO and have been in the mental health field for over 15 years. I’m passionate about a holistic approach to mental health that includes mind, body and spirit.
Currently, I specialize in working with individuals who struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma and other related issues. I provide a unique approach as a therapist that can go beyond talk therapy and explore the connection between your body and your mind . Contact me to learn more.
Why Many People Are People Pleasers and Perfectionists
Have you ever wondered why so many of us tend to be people pleasers or perfectionists? These behavioral patterns, while seemingly different, often share underlying motivations that drive our actions. Understanding why we lean towards these tendencies can be the first step in breaking free from their grip and finding a healthier, more authentic way to navigate life.
Why do people please? One primary reason is the deep-seated desire for social acceptance and approval. From a young age, we are conditioned to seek validation and avoid rejection. This innate need for connection and belonging can lead us to prioritize others' happiness and opinions above our own, sometimes to the detriment of our well-being.
Additionally, cultural and societal norms can reinforce people-pleasing behaviors. Politeness, helpfulness, and accommodating others are often encouraged and rewarded, reinforcing the idea that our worth is linked to how much we can do for others.
Why are people overly perfectionistic? Perfectionism often stems from a combination of internal and external pressures. Internally, individuals may set impossibly high standards for themselves due to a fear of failure or a need for control. This inner critic can create a relentless drive to achieve flawlessness in various aspects of life.
Externally, societal influences like social media, where curated images of success and perfection are prevalent, can exacerbate perfectionistic tendencies. The fear of not meeting these idealized standards can fuel perfectionist behaviors.
Moreover, past experiences of conditional love or praise based on achievement can make perfectionism a coping mechanism to seek validation and a sense of self-worth.
Recognizing the root causes behind people-pleasing and perfectionism is the first step in breaking free from their hold. It's important to understand that these behaviors, while well-intentioned, can often lead to burnout, anxiety, and a lack of fulfillment.
Your body, this sacred shell you live in, that allows you to participate in this life plays a huge part in how happy and vibrant you feel.
Think - gut health, brain health, nutrition, sleep, movement, detox, autonomic nervous system, and much more.
Your mind, the voice inside your head, telling you so much about yourself and this life influences your mood and energy on a daily basis.
Think - mindfulness, limiting beliefs, meditation, mind management, thought work, etc.
Your Soul, the divine being you are. The driver of your intuition is seeking your connection so you can live a life with purpose and meaning.
Think - deep questions, energy practices, intuitive gifts, stillness, and connection to self, other, and the Divine.
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Mindfulness and Meditation
How to care for our bodies and brains